I don’t like the word perfect, since it’s a state that seems a bit unrealistic in many forms… regardless, I had a conversation with my friend over dinner about dating, etc.

She suggested I check out a book “If the Buddha Dated” and we also talked about how relationships develop and grow and what it is about a partner that makes them ideal.

One thing I think I am going to do is figure out what traits I like in a person – what is most important to me, b/c now that I started thinking about it there are some things that are obvious but many more that I should probably think about in more detail.

Sounds like a fun exercise to me…

Here’s what I have so far:

– mind/personality – must be open minded, not stress out on the small things, have big ideas and likes to talk deeply about the world, why we exist, etc.

– face – I must be able to look at her face and unfortunately I am too shallow minded to get past someone I don’t find beautiful or at least not medusa-like (which of course begs the question, what does beautiful mean)

– enjoyments
– must be into music (or if not, be tolerant of my own musical tastes, since I can’t live without it)
– enjoys dancing – because I do too
– can be spontaneous/adventurous and do things on the spur of the moment
– can be comfortable being dirty/away from it all

bonus:
– body – I like bigger girls – more hearty and built very sturdy (muscles are good)

OK, so there’s my take on my 100% perfect girl, as Murakami would put it…